Reparenting versus Repeating
Awareness of the act of projecting is the experience that makes the difference between engaging with the issues created in the past, or transferring those issues onto situations and people in the present.
Engaging creates the space in which one can partner with others and be supported in changing one’s behaviors and perceptions, thereby increasing one’s capacity to see clearly the projected-ness of the image.
As a metaphor — the difference between Awareness of Projecting, and Transferring, is like the difference between knowing that you’re watching an enthralling movie, versus dreaming a dream in which you don’t know that you’re dreaming, until you wake up. It can be hard to wake up, sometimes especially from the recurring dreams.
Awareness transforms experience. Awareness is the opportunity for freedom.
Resources:
Youtube videos:
Dave Richo: Transference in Daily Life and Relationships — 2007 (part 1 of 3)
https://youtu.be/QDd7iJxn370?t=80
David Richo — Triggers: How We Can Stop Reacting and Start Healing
https://youtu.be/lD1ve3ZkCGc
Books:
How To Do The Work — Recognize your patterns, heal from your past, + create your self
Dr. Nicole LePera
https://yourholisticpsychologist.com/book/
Triggers — How We Can Stop Reacting and Start Healing
https://www.indiebound.org/book/9781611807653
Description:
Work with your triggers to find peace in the painful moments and lasting emotional well-being.
Psychotherapist David Richo examines the science of triggers and our reactions of fear, anger, and sadness. He helps us understand why our bodies respond before our minds have a chance to make sense of a situation. By looking deeply at the roots of what provokes us — the words, actions, and even sensory elements like smell — we find opportunities to understand the origins of our triggers and train our bodies to remain calm in the face of painful memories.
The book offers in-the-moment exercises on how to process difficult emotions and physical manifestations in order to to cultivate the inner resources necessary to deal with recurring memories of trauma. When we are triggered, Richo writes, “we are being bullied by our own unfinished business.” Explore what your body’s knee-jerk reactions can teach you. Triggers: How We Can Stop Reacting and Start Healing acts as a guide to your body’s powerful responses, helping you to remain calm under pressure and discover the key to emotional healing.
Facebook:
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FREE TOOLS:
Future Self Journal, by Nicole LePera
https://yourholisticpsychologist.com/
